More often than not, blog posts are the basis of articles I write. Some of the ideas that start on the blog get tweaked a bit and turned into something I submit for publication. Occasionally, it works the other way around and I post something that has already been published or accepted for publication. This is one of those instances. I write regularly for a Christian newspaper called Good News Florida. This past month my article was the cover story. I reprint it here for you.
Performance enhancing drugs (PEDs) have once again been
thrust into the spotlight. After a period of relative calm, the headlines have
come with a flurry. In mid-January, Lance Armstrong finally admitted to doping
his way to Tour de France dominance. In the lead up to the Superbowl, Ray Lewis
of the Baltimore Ravens was accused of using deer antler spray, a banned
substance, to aid his recovery from a torn tricep early in the season. Almost
concurrently came a story involving Alex Rodriguez, Melky Cabrera, and a
handful of other baseball players appearing on a list from an anti-aging clinic
in association with distributing PEDs. Rodriguez promptly denied all
involvement, but had previously admitted to using PEDs earlier in his career in
a “tell-all” interview with Katie Couric. Three scandals in various states of
exposure. When it rains it pours.
Repentance or Saving Face?
In the lead up to Lance Armstrong's interview with
Oprah Winfrey, there was a syndicated radio show discussing the familiar
refrain of "Is he truly sorry or is he just sorry he got
caught?" Most callers thought it was the latter. The pattern of
public repentance following exposure is all too familiar. It may be delayed as
long as possible, but when excuses have been exhausted and the truth is
unavoidable, the accused will come, tail between their legs, and apologize for
their misdeeds. In our skepticism, we
discount the sincerity of any sorrow that follows unraveling scandal. If
sincere, we speculate, it would have come earlier, before the truth was dragged
into the light by dogged investigation.
The Marks of Genuine Repentance
But is it possible that exposure could be the gateway
to true repentance, a needed wake-up call that stirs the accused from their
moral stupor? Could not God use this to prompt true repentance? This demands
discernment. When someone's hand is caught
in the cookie jar, how can we distinguish between repentance from the heart and
a display merely intended to save face? For this we should look for at least
three characteristics as marks of genuine repentance.
1. Transparency
When scandal is revealed it is almost always the tip
of the iceberg that has been pushed above the surface. A dense mass remains hidden
by the surrounding water. The worst may be exposed, but there is much that
remains concealed. Merely addressing what has been uncovered is a warning sign
of insincerity.
Being exposed is passive, something done to the individual. It is outside of their control. They did not choose to reveal this. But with much remaining concealed, there is the opportunity to be active in the exposure, revealing information without it being dragged out. Scandal breaks when an individual is exposed by another. Repentance begins when the individual moves beyond the passive to the active and exposes oneself.
Sin loses its potency when exposed to the light. True repentance will reveal the bulk beneath the surface because the risk of shame is worth the hope of recovery. Admit the illness and energy isn’t wasted on projecting an image of health. Focus can be given fully to the cure.
2. Responsibility
In true repentance, there is
a willingness to accept the consequences of one’s choices. True, divine pardon is freely available
through Christ. But while the stain of sin can be wiped away immediately, the
consequences of sin linger on. Wounds are not healed in a moment. Trust is not
restored overnight. After a great fall it is no easy task to put Humpty Dumpty
back together again. Sin creates a tangled mess. Unraveling the snarled ball
will take time and effort.
In taking responsibility, true repentance does not resort to excuses or minimization. The gravity of one’s offense is acknowledged and the consequences are accepted. The slow path of restoration will be embraced and shortcuts will be avoided. Depending on the circumstances, these consequences may involve financial obligation, legal punishment, job loss, anger from victims, widespread distrust, family division, damaged reputation, and broken friendships, among others. None of these are appealing, but they are deserved. True repentance will be reflected in a willingness to lie in the bed one has made.
3. Accountability
While scandal is exposed in a
moment, splashed across the front pages of tabloids and whispered about in
hushed voice at the grocery store, true repentance is something that is
evidenced over time. By the time scandal is exposed, it is generally deep in a
destructive spiral. This did not happen overnight and it will not be overcome
overnight. There are well-established patterns that must be broken and
weaknesses that must be protected against. Momentary shame may be enough to
correct behavior for a short time, but long-term change will come only as root
issues are dealt with over time. Exposure will not eliminate vulnerability.
True repentance will entail pursuing full transformation. This may be aided by professional counseling or involvement in a support group. It will certainly demand involving others in the process to help protect against set back, overcome rough patches and celebrate progress. Restoration is a long and wearisome road. Progress is mingled with regress and discouragement can easily set in. On-going accountability with a trusted group will help maintain momentum long after the public has wearied of the story.
The sincerity of repentance will be evidenced over time. Transparency, responsibility, and accountability will become obvious in the ensuing days, weeks, and months. But for those who believe in a God of grace, there is always the hope that exposure may be the first step toward restoration. While these three stories represent a thick slice of scandal pie in the realm of sports, there are plenty of other slices to be served. There will be more scandals exposed, more tearful news conferences, and more orchestrated confessions, in sports, in politics, in media, in ministry, and even in personal life with friends and family. Being able to discern true repentance will have recurring relevance, even for those with no interest in sports.
By the way, my wife began a blog this last week entitled "A Healthy Wife." It is written to support women in their relationships with their husbands. She has a message worth sharing. She communicates it well. I commend it to you.
